Yesterday I had a very interesting session with one of my clients.

She’s been with me for about 14 years and one of the smartest women I know.

When she came in, I could feel her energy was depleted and, she was speaking in what I call a Greta Garbo voice ~ deep, full of phlem/mucus and raspy.

I asked how long that had been going on and she told me about 2 1/2 weeks.

During our session, I decided to probe a bit deeper and after awhile she mentioned that her boss was considering closing the doors to his shop because his business was slow and the boiler was shot. My client suggested that she’d loan him the money to get it fixed so he could keep his doors open.

I found this whole exchange interesting. The man has a thriving business next door and his personal business at the other shop was slow because he’d been ill and a large number of his clients had gone to others in his shop so, they were still there. He just needed to rebuild.

During our session, I had my client do some sentence completions. She did one and a few minutes after, burst into a loud wail and then into tears. She said she was scared he was going to close his doors and she’d be out of work; she was scared because the majority of HER clients were coming in complaining about “the economy” and she realized at that moment that she was scared too and hadn’t acknowledge it and it was weighing on her.

She also had been talking with another mother and agreed to do something she didn’t want to do, so, we did some work around that.

She also acknowledged that she’d not been taking care of herself because clients wanted to book her on her days off and because of her fears, she took them thereby depleting her own energy and taking time away from her own “me” time.

We talked about her telling that mom that she didn’t want to volunteer and we talked about how she could take care of these other clients without sacrificing herself.

Then, I suggested she listen to her voice. All the raspyness was gone, her energy was raised and her color was back. It was like she was a whole new person than the one who came in and all it took was recognizing her fears.

In my playbook, I suggest people do some daily fear work. Not to focus on fear, but to just acknowledge what’s underlying in the murky depths of our subconscious. If we don’t acknowledge it, we can make ourselves ill or sabatoge a good relationship or kill our jobs.

My client acknowledged she had fears about saying no to this woman AND, she acknowledged she had fears about losing her job, losing her clients, etc. The reality of the latter situation is, she’s always made more money in the job than anyone else and still is. She went in one day when she only had one person booked and stated “I’m going to make some money today!” She did!

Bottom line ~ look inside and say ~ “One thing I’m afraid of is…..” then, finish the sentence with 6-10 different endings. See what comes up.

I’ve had students tell me they were fearless. Everyone they knew told them they were fearless. They have since found, they weren’t. Why is that good? Because unless you recognize what you are feeling, you’re not fully alive and experiencing everything the world has to offer. You hide in your fear ~ especially when unacknowledged.

Revvell