Recently I’ve been watching a show called S.W.A.T. (not the long ago t.v. series) and saw how the “negotiators” interacted with those barricaded with or without hostages.

I realize they only show bits and pieces of what’s really going on and what’s really being said yet, from what they show it’s just textbook training, not life. If they talked to me when I was suicidal I’d have killed myself ~ as many of them do. Why? They show no compassion for what’s going on with the ~ hmmm, don’t know what to call him (it’s usually a “him”… so, I’ll just call him “perp” unless I come up with something better before finishing this.)

Himself and I talked about how I’d probably be a really good negotiator ~ left to my own devices, especially having dealt with suicidal depression. Why? Because I know what it felt like to always feel like no one is on your side; everything you do is wrong; what’s the point in going on?

I was considering this and wondering what changed for me? Why did I, all of a sudden, stop feeling that death was the only way out?

Well, one thing was was when I was 13, I was considering ways to do it and I thought that if I had the courage to kill myself, then, I also had the courage to live and find out where my life was going to go. (A thought I remembered numerous times throughout my life.) (Also, if you want to call suicide “the coward’s way out” think about how you are afraid to leave that job or that lousy relationship because your monkey mind is saying that “something is better than nothing” or “being alone is worse” or, the “the next one might be worse”, etc. Even though it’s where we originally came from, death is as unknown to us as life is. It takes courage to die especially by one’s own hand. LMAO! I’m just remembering that I thought I was such a screw up that I probably couldn’t even kill myself right and would end up being a vegetable for the rest of my life. One more thought that kept me alive.)

Not sure where I’m going with this other than one thought was, if one kills him/herself, they may miss that great turnaround where life becomes joy!

Oh! I know why I started this. I was thinking about gang members and how they feel they HAVE to join a gang in order to survive where they are. Many of them are amazingly intelligent, very sensitive and scared.

They often have to create this persona of toughness just to stay alive when in reality, they’re not who they appear to be externally.

What turned my life around was in finding who I really am, not who I pretended to be. When my teacher first told me “you don’t know who you are”, I had no idea what he was talking about. Of COURSE I know who I am. Well, I didn’t. I felt I had to BE tough in order to survive. Well, not true. I have to be me in order to thrive!

Injoy,

Revvell

Bodacious Living

One of the biggest obstacles I see for many people is that they take things personally.

How often I’ve heard them say that someone did something “to them” yet, when I look at the facts, basically, they just did something ~ it wasn’t “to” anyone in particular ~ AND, even if it was, it’s still not personal.

This was brought up to me many years ago. At the end of a transformational weekend, my teacher gave each student a small piece of paper with something written on it. Mine said “Don’t take it personally”.

As I’ve said in many of my writings, we’ve learned so much via those around us, t.v., movies, etc. and we learn reactions instead of conscious response.

For instance, in a recent blog I wrote how my husband had left the hatch on my car open enough to leave the light on which killed the battery. We’re going out for lunch, it’s my birthday and my car wont start.

Many women would have taken it personally! He had done it TO them when actually it had nothing to do with them. It was his own unconsciousness. We pretty much all have those moments.

The other day I had put a question up on FaceBook. Everyone who commented agreed and understood what I was saying except one person who “tried” to turn it into something else by bringing up that I’d been gang-raped, my response to an Amazon review and because I told her what she was saying was separate from what I’d said she called me “childish”. NONE of which had anything at all to do with my question.

I received numerous emails from folk telling me how I should respond, how rude she was, that I should “block” her, etc. I could also have deleted her responses ~ none of which I did.

What was going on with her really had nothing to do with me. Something came up for her and her perception of what I was saying went askew and she brought her own stuff into the conversation.

I know I’ve done that. Haven’t you? *shrugs* It’s not a big thing and it’s not about me! It may not even have been about what I said there! It could very well have begun with something else I’d written or said on one of my UStream shows OR, something that was going on in her own life. Who’s to know? Certainly not I.

This brings up a memory of when I was working at a car dealership. The girlfriend of the manager took a really strong dislike to me and we’d barely ever spoken. I remember she said something nasty to me and I said (paraphrasing) “I don’t know why you dislike me but it seems as though you do. If you ever feel to tell me…” That stopped her. Awhile later she came to me and said I was right and she had no clue as to why. It wasn’t about me but it WAS something about me that brought up something insider of her. It wasn’t personal.

Once you get that pretty much whatever is going on around you (even though my world revolves around me; not everyone else’s does. Hopefully, theirs revolves around them) is not ABOUT you, you become more relaxed with life.

For instance, it use to be that no matter how good I did at something, no matter how many compliments I received, all I needed was that one “negative” (in my view) response and BAM! My day/life was shot!

Now, with all I do, I receive a lot of compliments, appreciations, email, etc. thanking me. While I really enjoy reading them and appreciate folk taking the time of their lives to write, it’s about them, not me! I’m just the catalyst.

By the same token when I read that someone’s blocked me or I find they’ve “unfriended” or “unfollowed” me or they dispute something I write or say, it’s still not about me. They may not have liked something I wrote, or did or said yet, it’s their response to it. It’s not personal to me.

Sort of an addendum. My father died when I was 12. Until I got some help I didn’t realize that I was REALLY angry with him for doing so and kept sabotaging my own relationships because of this unconscious anger. I felt he had left me alone with two people I didn’t like (mother and brother). Well, he had left AND I was left with them yet, he didn’t think “I’m going to die and leave Revvell alone to be abused”. He didn’t “do it to me”. He died. Wasn’t about me. Affected me, yes. But, it wasn’t done “to me”. Make sense?

Revvell

Bodacious Living

On my last UStream show I mentioned that my husband had left the hatch open on my car so when we were headed out on Saturday (my birthday) for lunch, then to an event, my car wouldn’t start. We were planning on taking both vehicles because he was working that evening and was going to leave the event early and go directly to his gig while I’d get to stay and enjoy the event.

Well, since my car wouldn’t start, change of plans. We decided to take his car, go for lunch, then go the the event and then he’d drive me home.

Now, many people would be a bit upset about that. First, the fact that he’d left the hatch open and the battery was dead; secondly because they’d have to leave the event early; 3rd, the inconvenience of having to get the car going and drive it enough to re-charge the battery.

I know many would have been so angry that they’d ruin the rest of the day… maybe not talking to him… accusing him… saying how stupid he was… etc.

For me, my monkey mind wanted to do all that BUT, my more reasonable self was in charge. He knew he was the last to take something out of the car (case of young Thai coconuts) and knew it was most likely he who’d left it open (not that you could see it but open enough to leave the light on and drain the battery). When I told him, he said, “yes, that’s right”. Now, lil monkey was yelling in my ear… “Is that it? ‘That’s right’? What about an apology???”

My rational mind said “you know, he’s probably feeling really crappy about this and already beating himself up. What’s the point? IF he says he’s sorry… what then? Do I REALLY need to make him “more” wrong? Will that make me more right? And, if so, so what? Ego is fed?”

The point of this whole story is, when coming from love, we don’t need to MAKE someone else wrong. The programmed part of me really wanted to do that but, what would be the point?

What I COULD have done and what many WOULD have done is, get pissed off and spoil the whole day if not the whole weekend! Yell about his un-consiousness and TRY and make him feel bad. Not talked to him for whatever length of time as punishment.

Where do we learn this type of behavior? I’ve seen it SO often in books and on t.v. shows and in the movies where one party becomes angry and doesn’t even tell the other party why. They feel SO in control when the other person keeps saying “just talk to me! Just tell me what’s wrong!” I remember having the conversation myself with ex’s. It’s ridiculous!

I remember a line in the movie “Get Shorty” where there had been a shootout and sometime later one character asked the other, “aren’t you scared?” The other said “I was scared then, I’m not now, how long I got to be scared?”

For me, that works across the board. “How long I got to be mad?”

One time someone told me “In a years time you wont even remember this. Why wait?”

So, why wait? Why not drop the anger (and dropping is NOT suppressing!) and move on! How often have you wondered what the arguement/fight was even about?

IF I had gone the way so many do, I’d have missed out on a lovely lunch with him; hanging out with him that afternoon at the event; riding to it and back with him AND, kissing him before he went off to work.

NOW, what if something had happened to him on his way to or from work? What IF I’d have stayed angry?

See? What’s the point? Anger is a natural emotion. Staying angry is ego. Trying to control someone.

Oh! The second part. Sunday morning I had a class at 7:30. I thought I’d call AAA, have them start the car and the battery would recharge on the way to class. The driver showed up 30 minutes later. My bad. I did say it was a Prius but I didn’t say my drive was long and narrow and a battery pack would be needed if they brought a tow truck.

So, the guy brings a huge tow truck, no battery pack and knows nothing about Prius’. He told me we could roll the car down the drive. Ummm, it’s dead. Without power you can’t even put it in neutral.

So, I decided to leave a message for Himself which basically said, “I’ll be home in 3 hours. Please call AAA and tell them to send someone who knows about Prius’ and to bring a battery pack.” Pretty much was a bit irritated so saying “You broke it, now fix it”. So, I go to class, get home about 10:30 a.m. and my note and key are exactly where I’d left them. I heard him upstairs and knew he’d not even seen it so, I threw it away.

Yes, lil monkey child was at it again. “He’s just getting up??? You’ve GOT to tell him!! He’s GOT to take care of this” blah, blah, blah!

What I did was, go up and greet him. His first words, “would you like to go out for birthday weekend brunch?” Hell yeah!!

So, called AAA again, told them to send someone who knows about Prius and to bring a battery pack. They did. The car started immediately! We went out for brunch, did some shopping and had a truly wonder-filled birthday weekend.

Now! IF I had listened to the little fur-brat in my head, that would not have happened. I’d have maintained my anger; he’d have been feeling bad and we’d have wasted a really great, loving weekend.

Injoy,

Revvell

Bodacious Living

There are so many factors when it comes to aging well.

The basics of course, food, rest and movement.

Today, I’ll be talking about movement.

Playing off of my “use to” (I’ve been corrected that it should be “used to” )~ blog, it’s really been made clear to me that there is a LOT to consider if one wants to age gracefully.

Next time you go somewhere where there are a lot of people, watch them. Watch how they move, how they stand, how they sit, how they get back up.

A sure sign of aging is inflexibility and lack of mobility.

When I trained with my teacher originally, we were inside. We were doing a lot of movement on the floor ~ yoga, bodyweight moves, ground engagement, etc. I was proud of the fact that I could get up off the floor very gracefully, using no hands while others younger than I struggled. Then we moved outside where we were doing qigong. We rarely got on the ground.

During that time, I was walking/running the hills around my home so, thinking I was getting in some really good movement.. and basically, IF I want to compare myself to others, I was. BUT…

I was missing weight-bearing exercises and floor movement.

I found that out when we began using kettlebells and iron clubs and also, doing ground engagement.

Now, I “used to” train with free weights for up to 6 hours a day. The problem with free weights and machines is, they isolate the muscle thereby making them really non-functional. No one lifts things that way in reality.

Case in point. My training partner was about 5′2″ and built like a fire hydrant. All muscle. He went to work for his father one day and the next he was sore and humbled. He couldn’t do half the work the thin, muscular guys who knew how to use their whole body did because he only knew how to use his arms.

That’s why I like kettlebells. If one is trained properly in their use, they use EVERY part of the body for the lift. I’ve seen many use them as they would free weights though, lifting with just arms instead of leg drive.

Personally, I feel if someone is going to do just one type of exercise/movement, some form of hatha yoga would fulfill pretty much everything in the title here. Add some walking to get outdoors and breath some fresh air, hiking up and down hills and you’re in business.

The only thing I would caution against in doing yoga is, I’ve seen many get to the point of flacidity instead of flexibility.

For those who want to play with various items as I do, Indian clubs are truly fun. They offer a wide range of upper body movements to open up the whole chest and back/shoulder area. One also needs co-ordination to perfect them.

After getting Indian clubs down, iron clubs provide even more fun. Similar to kb’s (kettlebells), you need to use your whole body to utilize them effectively and efficiently. Just a few minutes of a good iron club workout maximizes your health benefits more than an hour of free weights will because it’s a whole body workout.

What’s interesting to me is how people still subscribe to the “workout/rest/workout/rest” day theory.

When we were children, we didn’t take a day off from play. We played until we were exhausted, then got up the next day to do it again. When did that stop? Why? Because it became “EXERCISE!”. Who wants to do that?

My suggestion, find things to do that to you are fun. For me, learning how to handle kb’s, iron clubs, my own body, is FUN!

Remember when you were a kid? Did you play sword fighting with other kids? Take two sticks and just play? Well, that’s what I’m doing now with Kali sticks.

I’m going back to my martial arts roots and learning how to stick fight. Martial arts were originally used to keep in shape then they realized they could be used to fight. For me, I figure I’ll never get into another fight and probably never be attacked but, why not learn something that could be of potential use instead of movement just for the sake of it?

O.k., I’m all over the blog with this but, it was fun and IF you get something out of it, so be it.

I’ve got more to say on the topic but I want to keep this fairly short sooo, later for now.

Remeber, live bodaciously and celebrate your potential ~

Revvell

Bodacious Living

I had just finished prepping for my UStream show and gone out for my walk when I realized I NEEDED to come back here and write this up. If I didn’t I’d have said it all in my head and forgotten it by the time I came back.

I’m realizing too that I really need to empty my voice recorders and take one with me every time I go out so I don’t have to cut my walk short. I did get in over 3000 steps before coming home though.

O.k., to the topic at hand ~ being a “Use To” person.

I go to quite a few networking meetings and meet various people and when they see what I eat they’ll ask if I’m vegetarian. When I say “yes” they’ll often say “I USE TO be”.

When I meet people who ride motorcycles, now, I’m a “USE TO” person. Before a friend died in a auto/mc collision and another lost his leg (same crash), I rode. I have to catch myself to not say I “use to” ride so they ask me, why don’t you ride anymore as I don’t want to inject them with MY stuff about riding!

What I like to hear is “I USE TO smoke, drink, do drugs but I don’t anymore!”

Instead I hear “I USE TO do daily appreciations; walk every day; exercise; eat well, etc.” I also know I’m not going to ask them why they don’t any more. It’s not my biz. I don’t want to hear their dreary excuses for why they don’t.

This came up for me recently in an online conversation with a gent who told me his girlfriend “use to” be a vegetarian ~ before she met him. Enough said.

What brought this up for me is a couple of times over the past months I’ve caught myself saying “I USE TO be able to get up off the floor easily” and “before I got married I USE TO go walking daily”.

For me, when I say “I USE TO”, I want it to be consciously attained. By that I mean “I USE TO be a meat eater (well, it’s been 24 years now); I USE TO procrastinate on getting in my daily play; I USE TO be angry; I USE TO contemplate suicide (that’s over 15 years ago)…

See what I mean? Keep the good and USE TO the not-so good. Now, I want to say I CAN get up off the floor easily; I DO get up and move daily; I AM aware of what goes in my mouth and supports MY body.

Comments?

Injoy, Revvell

Bodacious Living

When I first began learning EFT, I had a hard time with tapping on the negative part of the sentences. For so many years, I’ve been saying “Acknowledge but don’t focus” and here, we’re saying something negative and tapping on it?? To me, that was like tapping the negative INTO myself and I had SO much resistance.

What I have found since then though is that the reason we say the negative is to acknowledge and accept where we are. For instance, if someone says, “Even though I constantly self-sabotage…” that’s just saying what we’ve done previously… up to now… then we switch to “…. I choose to stay focused on the results and support myself completely”. That changes the energy via our words AND the tapping.

What we’re saying is I know what I need to work on; I acknowledge and accept I do this and, now, I’m changing it. Make sense?

It’s as though I’m in Connecticut and I want to go to Nevada. Well, if I don’t know, acknowledge and accept where I am, how can I get where I want to go? If I “wish” I were somewhere else, it’s not going to help. Saying I “wish” I were in California and I want to go to Nevada, then I’d be traveling east yet, I’m REALLY in Ct. and if I travel east, I’m I’ll end up in the ocean rather than Nevada, correct? So! First step ~ Acknowledge and accept where you are now to get you where you want to go.

I understand many have an issue with the word “accept”, as well. They think if they accept something, that means they don’t/wont change it. One definition of accept is “…to regard as true..”. So, all we’re doing is saying “this is true ~ now”. It doesn’t mean it will always be true. Some examples of this would be: “currently I am 100 pounds more than MY ideal weight…”; “currently, I have a tendency to sabotage my successes…”; “currently, I’m in a less than ideal relationship…”. That’s it! Currently! It doesn’t mean you can’t, wont or are unwilling to change. It’s just a place to start.

I’ve also found many have a problem tapping on the positive… “I totally and completely love and accept myself.” There’s a little voice inside that says… “.. no you don’t…” which is why so many of us self-sabotage and cannot be the weight we’d like to be, have the health we’d like to have or the other successes. We feel we don’t deserve.

One of the high points for one of my students was when she stopped reaching for the ice cream whenever she was stressed because she chose that ending (or something similar) whenever she tapped. She came to class and she was astounded at her success saying she’d NEVER felt love for herself until she tapped on that for a week.

What’s interesting too is how so many wont do the tapping. They’re resistant and will say things like “this is silly”; “this wont work, etc.” which is fine. EFT doesn’t need to be believed to “work” or make a difference. All I say is, do it and find out for yourself.

I even have a couple of students who call themselves “shower tappers”. They’ll do it in the shower yet feel silly doing it in front of anyone. Others tap anytime, anyplace, especially when they’re feeling unhealthy (for them) cravings coming up or anxiety coming up which leads to self-sabotage.

A quick definition of Emotional Freedom Technique or, EFT is a simple, direct approach to release and redirect blocked energy patterns in the body/mind. Some call it acupuncture without needles.

Founder Gary Craig explains it thusly: In essence, EFT is an emotional version of acupuncture wherein we stimulate certain meridian points by tapping on them with our fingertips. This addresses a new cause for emotional issues (unbalanced energy meridians). Properly done, this frequently reduces the therapeutic process from months or years down to hours or minutes. And, since emotional stress can contribute to pain, disease and physical ailments, we often find that EFT provides astonishing physical relief.

What’s great about it is, once you learn it, you can tap on anything to resolve numerous issues which is why on my “Tap Into Your Ideal Weight” page, I tell you you’ll be able to keep and use the tools I’ll be teaching during the live, interactive teleclass. EFT is only ONE of the tools I’ll be sharing.

For those who are interested in eliminating excess weight and the habits, cravings and emotional eating patterns that constantly sabotage diet and weight loss endeavors, my “Tap Into Your Ideal Weight” teleclass series begins Tuesday, Jan. 12, 5 p.m. Pacific; 8 p.m. Eastern. As I work individually with each person throughout the program, space is limited AND you’ll save $50 if you register before Jan. 1, 2010 (if seating lasts that long). Let this be the last year you put “go on a diet” as one of your new year’s resolutions!

As I was out walking this morning, I was thinking about James Arthur Ray and the predicament he’s currently embroiled in and how it potentially came about energetically.

Previously, I’d heard his name but not much about who he is and what he does so I picked up his book “The Science of Success ~ How to Attract Prosperity and Create Harmonic Wealth Through Proven Principles”.

As I’m reading this, I’m thinking “Geeez, he says all the “right” things yet, what happened???” If he’s living harmonically, what the heck happened?

My guess at this point is, he hit what I call an upper limit. AND, he not only hit it, he slammed into it and BAM! hit the ground!

What happens when one hits an upper limit is, they’ve ignored stuff. They’ve usually ignored the underlying programs that will sabotage what one does, no matter their intentions.

For instance… if you’re looking to build an enterprise of some sort, pay attention to the little scared voices telling you you can’t, aren’t enough, don’t know enough, etc. Those voices are warning you of sabotage.

Be aware of injuries and accidents. These are warning signs that you’re headed for disaster.

Recently I injured my left hand AND my left knee. Energetically hands are about handling things. Legs/feet, about understanding, support and stepping out (although right side tends to be the stepping out more than the left). Left side is also (usually) feminine and receptive.

After doing lots of work with folks over the last few months I decided to take these last two months to just focus on me and what I’m looking to do. Even though I’m still working with private clients, I’d stopped doing teleclasses to take time to integrate what I’d learned and to make them better if possible. I took the time to explore why am I injuring myself? What am I ignoring? Yesterday I received a HUGE aHA! on that.

So, I’m thinking, with a business as big and lucrative as JAR’s, maybe he didn’t take the time to check out the warning signs so, the universe slammed him to the ground. I dunno.

Nowhere in his book have I read where he’s said to acknowledge the fears that come up when you’re making your plans. In my experience, if they are not acknowledged they’ll make their presence known one way or another. Acknowledging them and admitting them, one can usually bypass an accident, disease or injury.

Now, you don’t want to focus on them, just acknowledge.

Recently I had a former student call and ask me about upper limits. She felt that if she ignored them and basically said she didn’t have any, there wouldn’t be any. Well, you can’t say you don’t have something and there not be something to not have.

That’s like saying if I ignore the elephant in the room, it wont be there. Or if I ignore that I keep injuring myself, I wont do it again. Or, if I ignore that smoking makes me cough I wont have lung cancer. Or, if I ignore eating bad food makes me feel bad the next day that it wont…

Not having spoken with James Ray, I don’t know what, if any, indications the universe gave that he was headed for a fall yet obviously, he was not living in harmony with the universe at some level.

Revvell

Bodacious Living

One of the fears I encounter with people who are interested in joining my program is, that they can’t have something. What happens when emotions come up and they can’t have that comfort food? Those starches? That chocolate? or, whatever it is they crave?

Well, the difference between my program and weight loss diets is, there is no “can’t have”. What it will come down to is “want to have”.

One of the most exciting moments (which continues on today) is when I “thought” I was hungry and “thought” I wanted cheese or bread, etc. and, I opened the fridge and realized “well, I CAN have this but, I don’t want it!!!” Next thought, “what is it I do want or need?”

Most of the time, when we’re addicted to food as our drug, we reach and eat before having time to decide on other options! With TIYIW, the cravings are eliminated and the joy of knowing you have choices remains! IF you still want the drug, you CAN have it. If not, the joy of knowing YOU are in control, supersedes whatever else was going on.

Being in control = self-empowerment.

This is why so many “fall off” their food programs ~ raw, or otherwise. They often feel deprived. They have it in their monkey mind that they can never have this or that. Well, we can ALWAYS have something. I’ve given myself permission to have anything I want. Our little monkey minds are like two year olds. Tell them they can’t have something and they want it even more.

Now mine wanted things I don’t normally even eat! I’ve RARELY ever wanted potato chips but, tell my lil monkey “you can’t have” and boyyyyy, she wants ‘em! (my husband often keeps strange things in our home ~ like ‘tato chips)

With EFT and other energy therapies, we become more aware of the cravings, habits and emotional eating patterns, often eliminating them completely. Now, for me, those things I craved, I don’t even want. They don’t look like food to me. When I AM hungry, I’ve got luscious food already prepared so I am good-to-go.

I invite you to stop the cravings, the habits and the emotional eating/overeating by joining (click there —->) “Tap Into Your Ideal Weight“. There’s a money back guarantee if you don’t feel it’s bringing you what YOU want!

Injoy,

Revvell

Last Monday night when training with my teacher and the group, I noticed that my teacher was looking like he’d gained some weight.

After class we were talking and he’d mentioned he’d gained back about 8-10 pounds (try 20, to my eye BUT, I didn’t notice it last week!)

He told me he realized it wasn’t about the food; he’d not been doing his former habit of binging and throwing up BUT he was overeating. What he did realize, for himself was that it was about having the good. This makes sense because when we reach a certain level of good which is beyond what we think we “should” have or deserve, we become anxious and will do SOMEthing to quel the anxiety. For many of us, it’s eat!

Well, last night I was contemplating our conversation and at one level, I do agree, it’s not about the food YET, many of us are addicted to certain foods we turn to when we’ve got emotions we can’t handle, rewards we give ourselves, etc. For many, it’s chocolate. For me, and others of course, it was starches. Give me pizza, pasta, potatoes.. anything white. At one time it was sugar.

I’d also had problems with cheese.

Before getting married, most of these were not an issue because I didn’t have them in my home. After getting married ~ well, he’s the original pizza man. He loves his pizza, his pasta, his bread and cheese.

For awhile, I was into the cheese, bread, pasta and pizza myself. Any wonder after eating raw for so long I gained weight?

So, what to do. Oh! btw, it wasn’t JUST the food! It was also the fact that I’d gotten married to someone I barely knew (met on the internet and he lived in another country and much of our communication was via email, phone calls, vid cams, etc.) after NEVER having had decent relationship that lasted more than 3 months. Think I wasn’t doing some emotional eating? Uh huh!

Well, I tried using willpower. Opened fridge and would ask myself, “fit or fat”? Now, that brought SOME awareness to the issue because most of the time, I’d choose fit and it wasn’t cheese! BUT, when I was out of balance, “fit” went out the door and I rationalized… o.k., one slice of cheese wont hurt and, I’ll eat a salad. O.k., I’m putting LOTS of tomatoes, lettuce, cukes, etc. between the bread so, that’s o.k. Well, it wasn’t.

The next morning, I’m feeling mucusy and my eyes are all gummy and yucky, not to mention, the scale either wasn’t moving or, it was moving up! Not what I wanted.

So, what was the solution? It’s a combination of things. First off, bring more awareness to what I was eating when I ate it. I soon found that, there’s not much real taste to cheese. If this is your addiction, sit with a slice of cheese and just be with it. The texture is yucky and the taste? Might as well be eating tofu. Nasty!

Now, bread, pasta, etc. Sit with it; really chew it; savor it…. not much to savor is there? Mostly what these things are are transport vehicles. They transport the things that do taste good, to your mouth.

Think about what you’re eating when you eat pasta. Italian name for paste. Flour and water. Remember as a kid we use to make that? Bread? Basically the same thing. Not much flavor, not many nutrients.

O.k., so, that’s dealing with the food itself.

What I HAVE found though is, the monkey mind looks in the fridge and the cheese is at eye level so, when IT wants some cheese I basically have to remind myself, I REALLY don’t like it! Why eat something I don’t like? Where’s the satisfaction? Not to mention, how I feel the next day (isn’t that the way with addicts? They usually feel crappy the next day after they indulge in their addiction?)

Another thing to look at is, habits. When, where, why, how and what do I eat? Well, even though I’ve just finished eating not that long ago, I’d often find myself looking in the the fridge or on the counter for something to eat. Because of all the work I’ve been doing with myself, students and clients, I now, very often, check myself and ask, “wow! Am I even hungry?” Very often the answer is “noooo”. So, what is it? Very often I AM thirsty! But also, very often, something emotional has come up ~ and, it can be something very subtle that I’m not aware of ~ I just KNOW, I’m doing something out of balance and, I’m not hungry so there MUST be something going on. What to do? One of my favorite things is to walk. I have nothing much to distract me; I’m getting energy moving and, I’m talking to myself. Another, write. I tell my students and clients to write and do it often. Whenever you’re feeling out-of-sorts and reaching for the food, write it out.

Other things are energy therapy. Could be EFT, sentence completions, emcode, etc. Once I find out what’s going on, it’s easy to eliminate these things without succumbing to food!

For me, having so many tools and awarenesses available has been and is, such a blessing! I no longer just eat out of habit, cravings or due to emotions. I no longer get that “I don’t care ~ I’m eating it anyway” desperation.

Oh! One thing I REALLY got last night is when I was working with my teacher well over two decades ago, I had asthma so bad it almost killed me a couple of times. Almost every time we had a session, I’d have an attack. Now, we never did anything specifically with the asthma itself. We changed my food program and, eliminated my future nemisis’s (sp) wheat and dairy yet, I was still having issues with asthma so it HAD to be emotional.

Again, we didn’t do anything specific with the asthma. We worked in general to bring me fully ~ physically, mentally and emotionally ~ into balance.

I really got that in last night’s class. Much of the time we weren’t working specifically with weight. What we were working with was our self-esteem, our tendency to sabotage, our fears of success (and failure), etc. As we work together and bring our selves to more and more balance the weight will take care of itself as the asthma did because we wont NEED that crutch anymore!

For those who’ve read my post about my heart, when I really delved into that, I realized it was retracing from when I had the asthma. Some unconscious part of me was, in it’s own way, “trying” to keep me safe and my heart was weakened previously from the asthma. I’m going into new physical and mental/emotional territories and my doing so scared the crap out of parts of myself so, it created the heart stuff. The mental/emotional manifested the physical. Now that all that’s resolved mental/emotionally, my heart has stopped scaring itself ~ and me!

If interested in joining my teleclass, I’m beginning a new one Wed., Nov. 4 at 10 a.m. pacific time; 1p.m. eastern. I’m also available for one-on-one sessions. For more information on that, please go to Bodacious Living.

Thank you for taking the time to read all this.

Injoy,

Revvell

For the last few days I’ve been reading Loral Langemeier’s newest book “Put More Cash in You Pocket”. When I first began reading it I was thinking, “o.k., so, how’s this different from her “Cash Machine” book? Well, it is.

What I like about this book and about Loral is, she’s about living out loud (thus, the name of her company). A wealthy gent once told me, “If you don’t have enough money, make more”. Well, that’s the message here. Don’t “tighten your belt” and start living frugally. That is NO way to live! If you died tomorrow, would you say proudly “Well, I lived frugally!” Or, would you rather say, “I lived LOUD and I enjoyed every minute of it and I shared it with everyone I know?” Personally, I prefer the latter.

So, here comes this book to teach you how to do that ~ specifically how to create a (I’m sure) useful $500-$1000 per month using talents, skills and knowledge you already have.

As in past books, Loral talks about a specific few folks. She takes you through their process, thinking, writing, learning. How can they each create more money? Some make it easily doing certain things a few times a month and charging more; others, a few times a week.

She takes us step-by-step through through the “twenty-first century lemonade stand”. (You’ll understand what that means when you read it. It’s enlightening.)

Throughout the book she’s got task sheets, lists, tests and practices so you can find out what can really for YOU!

Chapters include:

Discover the Idea

The Fast Cash Formula

Replicate and Duplicate (don’t try to re-invent the wheel. We’re looking for fast cash here)

The Right Price (I loved this chapter. Haven’t most of us had difficulty figuring what to charge?)

Stand and Deliver

Ask for the Cash (something many entrepreneurs fail to do due to fear. She helps the reader get past that.)

The Bare Necessities

Opening Day and Beyond

Break the Pattern

If you, or someone you know, needs some fast cash, this is definitely the book. So, how is it different from “The Cash Machine”? You’re not looking to create a business forever (not that it can’t/wont happen) OR, a way to create income to get you to your next step, your big dream. It’s just a way to add more to what you’re already receiving and FAST! I LOVE this book! It’s a simple read and you can begin taking action immediately to create some Fast Cash!