When I first began learning EFT, I had a hard time with tapping on the negative part of the sentences. For so many years, Iâ€™ve been saying â€śAcknowledge but donâ€™t focusâ€ť and here, weâ€™re saying something negative and tapping on it?? To me, that was like tapping the negative INTO myself and I had SO much resistance.
What I have found since then though is that the reason we say the negative is to acknowledge and accept where we are. For instance, if someone says, â€śEven though I constantly self-sabotage…â€ť thatâ€™s just saying what weâ€™ve done previously… up to now… then we switch to â€ś…. I choose to stay focused on the results and support myself completelyâ€ť. That changes the energy via our words AND the tapping.
What weâ€™re saying is I know what I need to work on; I acknowledge and accept I do this and, now, Iâ€™m changing it. Make sense?
Itâ€™s as though Iâ€™m in Connecticut and I want to go to Nevada. Well, if I donâ€™t know, acknowledge and accept where I am, how can I get where I want to go? If I â€świshâ€ť I were somewhere else, itâ€™s not going to help. Saying I â€świshâ€ť I were in California and I want to go to Nevada, then Iâ€™d be traveling east yet, Iâ€™m REALLY in Ct. and if I travel east, Iâ€™m I’ll end up in the ocean rather than Nevada, correct? So! First step ~ Acknowledge and accept where you are now to get you where you want to go.
I understand many have an issue with the word â€śacceptâ€ť, as well. They think if they accept something, that means they donâ€™t/wont change it. One definition of accept is â€ś…to regard as true..â€ť. So, all weâ€™re doing is saying â€śthis is true ~ nowâ€ť. It doesnâ€™t mean it will always be true. Some examples of this would be: â€ścurrently I am 100 pounds more than MY ideal weight…â€ť; â€ścurrently, I have a tendency to sabotage my successes…â€ť; â€ścurrently, Iâ€™m in a less than ideal relationship…â€ť. Thatâ€™s it! Currently! It doesnâ€™t mean you canâ€™t, wont or are unwilling to change. Itâ€™s just a place to start.
Iâ€™ve also found many have a problem tapping on the positive… â€śI totally and completely love and accept myself.â€ť Thereâ€™s a little voice inside that says… â€ś.. no you donâ€™t…â€ť which is why so many of us self-sabotage and cannot be the weight weâ€™d like to be, have the health weâ€™d like to have or the other successes. We feel we donâ€™t deserve.
One of the high points for one of my students was when she stopped reaching for the ice cream whenever she was stressed because she chose that ending (or something similar) whenever she tapped. She came to class and she was astounded at her success saying sheâ€™d NEVER felt love for herself until she tapped on that for a week.
Whatâ€™s interesting too is how so many wont do the tapping. Theyâ€™re resistant and will say things like â€śthis is sillyâ€ť; â€śthis wont work, etc.â€ť which is fine. EFT doesnâ€™t need to be believed to â€śworkâ€ť or make a difference. All I say is, do it and find out for yourself.
I even have a couple of students who call themselves â€śshower tappersâ€ť. Theyâ€™ll do it in the shower yet feel silly doing it in front of anyone. Others tap anytime, anyplace, especially when theyâ€™re feeling unhealthy (for them) cravings coming up or anxiety coming up which leads to self-sabotage.
A quick definition of Emotional Freedom Technique or, EFT is a simple, direct approach to release and redirect blocked energy patterns in the body/mind. Some call it acupuncture without needles.
Founder Gary Craig explains it thusly: In essence, EFT is an emotional version of acupuncture wherein we stimulate certain meridian points by tapping on them with our fingertips. This addresses a new cause for emotional issues (unbalanced energy meridians). Properly done, this frequently reduces the therapeutic process from months or years down to hours or minutes. And, since emotional stress can contribute to pain, disease and physical ailments, we often find that EFT provides astonishing physical relief.
Whatâ€™s great about it is, once you learn it, you can tap on anything to resolve numerous issues which is why on my â€śTap Into Your Ideal Weightâ€ť page, I tell you youâ€™ll be able to keep and use the tools Iâ€™ll be teaching during the live, interactive teleclass. EFT is only ONE of the tools Iâ€™ll be sharing.
For those who are interested in eliminating excess weight and the habits, cravings and emotional eating patterns that constantly sabotage diet and weight loss endeavors, my â€śTap Into Your Ideal Weightâ€ť teleclass series begins Tuesday, Jan. 12, 5 p.m. Pacific; 8 p.m. Eastern. As I work individually with each person throughout the program, space is limited AND youâ€™ll save $50 if you register before Jan. 1, 2010 (if seating lasts that long). Let this be the last year you put â€śgo on a dietâ€ť as one of your new yearâ€™s resolutions!
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